Helpful Language

We want to be honest about what survivors can expect from us. If we can, it is best to remind students of our reporting obligations before they share experiences. Here is one way to approach that type of situation: 

鈥淚 am not sure if this is related to what you want to share, but I wanted to remind you I am a private not a confidential resource. If you would rather talk to a confidential resource I am happy to connect you to one. I just want you to know all your options.鈥

Sometimes students share information before we have a chance to remind them of our reporting obligations, here is one way to approach that type of situation:

鈥 I appreciate you trusting me with this. I care about you and want to make sure you get the best support. I am required to report this information, so they can make sure you are offered all your options.鈥 

You may also want to tell the student what they can expect.  Here is one way to approach that type of situation:

鈥淭hank you for trusting me with this information.  I know this must be difficult for you to share with others.  Please know that since I am required to share this information, after I do so, you will receive an outreach email with resources for you, and an opportunity to meet with an advocate.  It is your choice how you respond to this email.鈥 

Please do not hesitate to contact the Title IX Office for more guidance on helpful language to use when responding to disclosures of interpersonal violence.