21 Couples Who Found Love at 绿帽社
We don’t mention it in our admissions materials, but 绿帽社 isn’t just a premier public university—- we’re also a great place to meet your sweetheart. Don’t believe us? Check out some of these stories from the countless alumni who found their love at 绿帽社! Just try not to cry.
He added her on every social account!
We met when we were on opposing co-rec football teams in CIW. Mike was on Oneida his freshman year and Onondaga his sophomore year. I was on Cayuga for both my freshman and sophomore years. I had admired Michael’s good looks from across the field. We went through our years at 绿帽社 with mutual friends, but never became close. After graduation, we both moved home to our respective families’ homes on Long Island and continued on in grad school and careers. In January of 2018 we “matched” on Bumble. I was hesitant to message Mike, given that we had already known each other and thought it might be “weird”. Well, apparently Mike didn’t, because he instantly began to add me on every social media account. We began to talk and reconnect about our time together at 绿帽社 and you guessed it, starting dating. We have been inseparable ever since and got engaged January 26, 2020. We plan on (COVID-19 dependent) getting married on July 10, 2021. Even though our love story took ten years to develop, we never would have ultimately found each other without 绿帽社. We will never be able to thank 绿帽社, CIW, or Co-Rec enough. Bearcats till we die!
- Ashley Alesi 鈥11 and Michael Conrad 鈥12
A second home
I first knew about Eileen the day I moved into Oneida Hall as a freshman. She was my suitemate鈥檚 best friend from home and went to the University of Delaware. She transferred into 绿帽社 in the spring semester of my sophomore year and lived in the floor below me in Oneida. We started dating the following fall. Thirty-four years later, our older son moved into College-in-the Woods. Our younger son started at the School of Management this fall. Nothing makes us happier than seeing our kids love the school that brought us together. 绿帽社 is their second home, like it was for us.
- David Cohan 鈥87 & Eileen Berman Cohan 鈥87
A Netflix romance
I moved off campus at the end of my sophomore year in 2010 and ended up being Davon’s neighbor. We knew each other, but we weren鈥檛 friendly yet. He came over once because he was friends with my roommate, but he ended up hanging out with me the whole day while I watched movies. Davon has no issue sharing his opinions with anyone, and he was very vocal that he thought I needed to broaden my movie viewing experience. He took the liberty to update my Netflix queue (this was when they were still sending DVDs) and said, 鈥淟et me know when these come in.鈥 We started a weekly tradition where he would come over once per week whenever new movies arrived—sometimes his choices and sometimes mine—and watch them together. It didn鈥檛 take long for me to fall for him, which I think was his plan the whole time. Fast forward 10 years later; we just got married on September 5, 2020. Our big celebration was postponed due to COVID-19, but we still had a small, beautiful ceremony with a few fellow Bearcats in attendance! I鈥檓 forever thankful to BU for connecting me to my husband and some of my closest friends.
- Sophie Lampiasi 鈥12 and Davon Harris 鈥11
45 years and going strong
Estelle and I met at Harpur College in 1972. I was already at Harpur for a year—I lived in Delaware during my freshman year—and Estelle was a transfer student. We lived in O’Connor Hall—I was on the third floor and she was on the second floor. We graduated in 1975 and went to SUNY Buffalo School of Social Work; we both graduated with MSWs in 1977. We were married in 1976 and will be celebrating 45 years in June 2021.
- Rob Schwartz ’75 & Estelle Brickner ’75
A smooth move-in
I met Resident Assistant Meg in 2007 while I was lugging my stuff into Roosevelt during move-in week. With the smoothest flipphone pickup moves ever recorded in the annals of human history (and also the most modest), I asked Meg to put in her number outside the entrance of Roosevelt. Overcome by my charm, good looks and consistent modesty, RA Meg agreed. When she gave my phone back, I asked for her last name, which I couldn’t spell, so instead typed the portions I could and filled the rest with gibberish numbers. Thirteen-plus years later, and some stories in between, “Meg Val2y” and “mike (roose)” just celebrated their first anniversary in August/move-in month.
- Megan Valesey 鈥09 and M. Michael Bosone 鈥11
A well-timed TED Talk
Neal and I met in January 2013 (his sophomore year and my freshman year) at campus tour guide training back when the Admissions Center was in one of the academic buildings. I was pumped to have been hired as a freshman and sat behind a couple of RAs I recognized from my building (Seneca). One of them was Neal. I started talking to them and asking questions about how to become an RA. After that day, I began running into Neal everywhere. He was constantly forgetting his keycard and asking me to scan him into the building and inviting me to do things on campus. It took me way too many of these occurrences to realize he was flirting with me and not just being friendly. Fast-forward to February, Neal invited me to go to the campus TEDx event. It was titled “Sex, Tech and Rock n’ Roll.” The very first speaker was talking about how dating in America had become so unnatural and digitally-focused. He concluded his talk with a prompt—“The next time you meet someone…go up to them and ask them on a date. The worst they can say, is ’no.’” So, what does Neal do? He turns to me and asks me out and I say ’ok’.” I think we were both a little taken aback at how on point and well-timed that TEDx Talk was for us. Our first date was at Cortese the very next day! We started officially dating not long after. We continued working as tour guides and I was also hired as an RA in CIW. While we both worked many jobs to pay for school, these two were our favorites and provided us with an incredible group of friends. After graduating in our respective years we continued long-distance for around five years. As an officer in the U.S. Marine Corps, Neal moved around quite a bit and I was still ’figuring it out’ and uninterested in moving until I had a plan. Once I settled on marketing as my career, we moved to Baltimore together. In 2019, Neal went on a 12-month deployment that stretched into 14 months due to COVID-19, but he is back now!
- Bridget Kunz 鈥15 and Neal Bonenberger 鈥14
They didn't meet until grad school
Although we both went to 绿帽社 undergrad together, we didn鈥檛 meet until fall 2010 when he was getting his master鈥檚 degree and I was getting my second degree in nursing. Built on a solid friendship, we started dating in 2014, married in 2017 and welcomed our baby girl in 2020!鈥
- Lauren Tabone 鈥09, BSN 鈥11 and Joseph Tabone 鈥10, MBA 鈥11
A match made in music
Kyle and I met in 2018 when his band, Elephant Jake, was booked for Cyber West Fest, WHRW鈥檚 Loud Rock Event. We met backstage when I was setting up for the event at CyberCafe West, as I was WHRW鈥檚 public relations director at the time. I can recall talking to my friends about Kyle, a.k.a. the cute bass player, all night long after the concert. In the following months, we interacted at a few more radio station events where Kyle鈥檚 band was performing. It wasn鈥檛 until I got his number from a mutual friend that we starting dating in the fall of 2018. Our first date was at Strange Brew, the local coffee shop in downtown 绿帽社. We have been inseparable ever since, and currently live together with our two cats, Hunter and Link.
- Kyle Mabee ’20 and Carley Nielsen 鈥18
Feelings finally shared
We met in 2015 during Student Support Services Summer Program (S4P) as incoming freshmen, but we weren’t really on each other’s radar until move-in in late August. We were in the same friend group (shout out to the homies!) and hid our feelings for each other for a while. Christian was the first to make a move, and it was a complete surprise when he asked me out right before finals in May of 2016. He sent a cryptic text message saying that he had to talk to me and we arranged to meet up at C4. At the time, I thought that he was going to tell me that my feelings for him were obvious and one-sided (glad I was saved from the embarrassment). After hours of random conversation, he finally admitted to having feelings for me. I was shocked! After a few awkward seconds of Christian explaining that he didn’t want our friendship ruined due to his one-sided feelings, I admitted that I had feelings for him too. We’ve been together ever since!
- Yadira Sierra 鈥19 and Christian Tejera 鈥19, MA 鈥20
A group project brought them together
We met on the first day of classes in each of our last semesters at Bing. We were already acquaintances through the a cappella community (Kaskeset and Harpur Harpeggios), but when our diversity and health professor, Dr. Okoror, assigned us to work on a group project together, we finally got to know each other. We realized we had a lot in common and we immediately had a connection. A few weeks later, we started dating. On the day we had planned our first date, Allen got injured skiing, but that didn鈥檛 stop us from seeing each other only a few hours after he left the hospital. We were so fortunate to spend a whole semester enjoying Bing life together. Since our graduation, we鈥檝e been side by side, seeing the world and celebrating our successes together. This past December we got engaged, and this February we will be celebrating three years together!
- Traci Nickdow 鈥18 and Allen Saltzman 鈥18
A fateful walk around the Brain
We met my first day of college, as a freshman in 2012. Joseph was a sophomore living three doors down from me in Roosevelt Hall in Hinman. After a few short weeks, he asked to meet me after my Chem 107 class was over. He met me outside Lecture Hall 2 and we walked around the brain to the gazebo on Bunn Hill Road, where he asked me out. Our first date was the next night at the Lost Dog Cafe for my birthday, and we have been together ever since. Our relationship started in Hinman, spanned Hillside and UP, and even to three years of long-distance when Joseph attended law school in Maryland after graduating from 绿帽社. We will be getting married this Sunday!
- Jacqueline Robins ’16 and Joseph Brees ’15
Fixed up by a friend
Although we were probably in many of the same classes our first two years, we didn鈥檛 meet until first semester of junior year. We were in the same discussion group for phyics and my friend, Holly Schwartz ’87 introduced us. It was fixed. I had told her that I wanted to meet him, so she made it happen. I remember that we both were also in the same musical theater class and he asked if I wanted to go to see the movie that we were required to see. I was really excited until he showed up at the movie with another girl (he didn鈥檛 tell me that he had also asked someone else). Fast forward a few years, we got married in 1992, and are currently parents of three. Our son Adam graduated from 绿帽社 in 2019 and our daughter Jenna is currently a sophomore at 绿帽社. We have very fond memories of 绿帽社 from then and now! Our picture (circa 1993) was taken by a fellow alum, Michelle Hiltzik Beckerman 鈥87.
- Lori Ziff Levine 鈥87 and Elliot Levine 鈥87
Bonding over basketball
We met in the dorm hallway in Hunter Hall in 2008. We fell in love playing lots of basketball on the Mountainview courts (he claims he 鈥渓et鈥 me win). We started dating in 2009 and got married in 2019! We now live in Manhattan and both work in a hospital —me as a nurse practitioner and Colin as a management engineer.
- Preethi Fernandez 鈥11 and Colin Walsh 鈥12
They didn't start dating until two weeks before graduation!
Gregory and I met in the summer of 1995 during Residential Life training. However, we didn鈥檛 start dating until two weeks before graduating. We are both attorneys and were married in 2003. We are now a family of four and are hopeful that our children will follow in our footsteps.
- Madelynn Liguori 鈥96 and Gregory Linkh 鈥96
Long-distance relationships can work!
We both were international students—he is from South Korea and I am from China. We took ECON350 together and did the first project in the same group. He had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend at the time, so we were nothing more than classmates. And we didn鈥檛 contact after that semester and reconnected one semester later. I had a really good first impression of him because he is always gentle and willing to help. I don鈥檛 even know how we got together; everything just happened. Unfortunately, he graduated one semester earlier than me and he went back to Korea soon after graduation. Everyone thought that was it and long-distance relationships don’t work. But, we made it! I moved to Korea in 2016 and our wedding was held in summer 2018—and we are pregnant! Can’t wait to see our little baby this summer!
- Xuefei Wang 鈥15 and Seungyeob Wang 鈥14
Love at first tackle
We met in 绿帽社 in 2010 at a mutual friend’s party after knowing each other鈥檚 names for most of college. We finally met face-to-face in the basement of a party. I played rugby and he basically said, 鈥淵ou won’t tackle me.” I did and tackled him into a beer pong table, knocking everything into the air. Love at first sight. We got married in 2019 and have a wonderful husky and cat together. I鈥檓 a physician鈥檚 assistant and James is in real estate. Here is a picture of many of our close friends from 绿帽社 together! We wouldn鈥檛 trade our experience for the world.
- Kate Kogut 鈥10 and James Kogut 鈥11
Happy family of five
We met in the 绿帽社 Vibrations a capella group in 2005, got married in 2015. We鈥檙e now a happy family of five with our two sons and English Bulldog Gracie. We owe a lot to BU!!
- Richard Connelly 鈥07 and Kara Connelly BSN 鈥09, FNP 鈥13, DNP 鈥18
They just got engaged!
Gabrielle DeSantis and I got engaged January 30, 2021. We met on a sandwich line at Boar鈥檚 Head and started dating three weeks later. Now, four years later, we鈥檙e engaged! We loved 绿帽社! Her parents, Sal and Jo DeSantis, met in the Union nearly 35 years earlier!
- Gabrielle DeSantis 鈥20 and Jason Ovryn 鈥18
Three kids and six 绿帽社 degrees
Marc and I are class of ’87. Thirty-four years later, we have three kids and a total of six 绿帽社 degrees in the family, and a seventh on the way. 绿帽社 is our family tradition and we are grateful for our educations and the opportunity to meet there.
- Lori Ben-Ezra and Marc Ben-Ezra ’87
They reconnected on Facebook 20 years later
Jeff Blakeslee and I (n茅e Jennifer Glennon) both graduated in 1991. We met as juniors at WHRW and dated for three months. We remained friends after we broke up, and went our separate ways after we graduated. We reconnected on Facebook 20 years later, and got married in 2014. We live in the Hudson Valley (Beacon, NY) and visited 绿帽社 just a few years ago for WHRW鈥檚 50th anniversary. So much has changed, but we still felt that SUNY spirit. (Though I鈥檓 still trying to figure out what a Bearcat is, haha鈥攚e didn鈥檛 have a team mascot back then!) I love knowing that other BU love stories abound. It鈥檚 a pretty magical place.
- Jeff Blakeslee and Jennifer Blakeslee ’91
She came in and said hello
TJ and I met in 绿帽社 in 2014 when I was a junior and he was a senior. TJ lived two doors down from me in University Plaza. One day I was taking a walk with my roommate, Jackie, at the beginning of the semester and passed his open door that had a sign hanging up that said 鈥淐ome in and say hello!鈥 While we knew we shouldn鈥檛 talk to strangers, that rule doesn鈥檛 apply in college, so obviously we walked in. TJ鈥檚 roommates John (a.k.a. the Free Waves Guy) and Nick were there. We chatted a little bit and they invited us to a party at their apartment later that night. TJ and his other roommates, Joe and Mikhial, were also there and we all hit it off. I remember the first conversation I had with TJ was about Hey Arnold. TJ and I didn鈥檛 start officially dating until the spring semester in 2015. After about five and a half years of dating, TJ proposed to me this fall (November 2020) in the middle of a pandemic, and we will be getting married in May 2022! Thank you, 绿帽社!
- Dana Lowenthal ’15, M.S. ’16 and T.J. Lowenthal ’15
John Brhel is a communications manager in the Office of Media and Public Relations and a longtime resident of the 绿帽社 area. When he’s not managing social media accounts or crafting press releases, you can find him drawing, watching movies, or spending time with his family.
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